Meher Baba explains that suicides, who have died prematurely, before expending all their impressions (sanskaras) for that lifetime, become “ghosts,” having subtle and mental bodies but not gross bodies. They still have desires, so they seek contact with humans to fulfill their desires, whether it’s drinking, smoking, food, sex, or other cravings that can only be satisfied with a gross body. Baba says: Ghosts are people who have committed suicide and have no body. They enter another body, and then make the body of whomsoever they enter do as they wish. These ghosts are miserable because of their unsatisfied desires. Baba says not to be afraid of ghosts: Why be afraid of ghosts? A ghost means a human being without a body, and in that bodiless state he has to remain as long as the sanskaras of his previous birth last. Then he takes another birth. Also: Sometimes you feel angry for nothing. This might be some spirit wanting to spend sanskaras of anger through you. But this is so unimportant, not worth thinking about. Our bodies are full of germs, but we don’t think about it. What do ghosts look like, according to Baba? Since they are not limited by gross bodies, they can strech out in all directions. When it is dark and silent, their Subtle, smoky bodies become transparent. They can then be seen and even photographed, according to Baba. For more of these details, see Life Eternal. Aside from quotes, in order to see how Meher Baba dealt with suicide, one has to read his biography, such as Lord Meher. He intervened in many suicides to prevent them, often using occult means to do so; and he told of ghosts or spirits who came to him seeking release from their condition (to go on to a rebirth), some having been earth-bound for hundreds of years.
The Mandali always comforted those whose loved ones had committed suicide, reassuring them. The link below is a video in which Bhau Kalchuri, one of Baba’s close Mandali, explains Baba’s views on suicide. Bhau says we should pray to Baba or God for persons who have killed themselves.
Suicide is not the solution. It only entails rebirth with the same problems all over again. The only solution is God-realization, to see God in everything. Everything is easy then.
—Meher Baba, 1934, Hollywood, to Mercedes Acosta. Lord Meher 6: 1940
The condition of one who arrives at death through suicide requires special explanation. Such a one goes neither upwards nor downwards, neither does he immediately reincarnate, nor pass into heaven or hell. Such spirits remain suspended closer to the earth plane, inasmuch as no entry is possible for them in any of the aforementioned states. Their condition is pitiable in the extreme, because they too feel the pull of their sanskaras, but unlike those on earth, they have no Gross body in which to fulfill their desires. These are the ones which in common parlance we call ghosts or disembodied spirits. It is these spirits whom mediums sometimes contact, and they prove a source of harm as well as good. Sometimes such a spirit tries to possess a human body with which it feels an affinity due to similarity of sanskaras.
If, for example, a person who is otherwise eligible for the heaven state commits suicide, he remains suspended near the earth plane, and if he comes in contact with a human being does him no harm. But if one who, through his bad sanskaras, was eligible for hell dies before his time, then he may become a source of harm and pain to those whom he contacts. The relatively good spirits, however, usually seek redress through yogis, or they seek to serve a Perfect Master in the darkness of night. Yet, owing to the karmic law, it takes many cycles for such suspended spirits to have the chance of reincarnating again in human form through the aid of the Master. The evil spirits run as far away as possible from a Perfect One.
Both good and bad suspended spirits can sometimes work out their sanskaras through a human being, if they can find one with similar sanskaras and suitable past karmic connections. However, the ignorant victims of such possession by a suspended spirit may suffer physically and materially, though spiritually they are benefitted to the extent of dispensing with three or four incarnations.
—Meher Baba, 1926? Meherabad? Jean Adriel, Avatar, pp.105-7
Suppose a man is destined to have a life span of forty years, but he commits suicide when he is thirty. Consequently, for the remaining ten year period of unexpressed sanskaras, his spirit inhabits the lower planes, and at times is seen by some people as a spirit or ghost.
— Meher Baba, Lord Meher, rev. online ed., 589
A STORY: “NEVER THINK OF SUICIDE AGAIN”
Source: Lord Meher 15: 5151-52
From the time he joined Baba during the early 1940s in Bangalore, Krishna Nair had been doing night watch by Baba’s side. But from Satara, Baba sent him back to his home in Kerala. One day in March 1957, at 3:00 P.M. when Bhau went to Baba for his watch, Baba asked, “Do you know Krishna’s address?”
Bhau replied, “No, but I have heard he is in Bombay.”
Baba looked serious and asked, “I must send him an important telegram. How can it be sent?”
Bhau replied, “Sohrabji Siganporia (the secretary of the Bombay Centre) may be aware of Krishna’s whereabouts. If a telegram is sent to him, he will inform Krishna.”
Baba then dictated this telegram: “Don’t worry. I am with you. I will never abandon you. Love, Baba.”
He instructed Bhau to send it at once. Coming out of Baba’s room, Bhau learned that the boy who daily carried messages and mail to Ahmednagar had already left for town. Bhau returned to Baba and informed him. Baba was extremely distraught and gestured, “If he has left, then another boy should have been sent. How can I trust you now? You are useless! You don’t understand the significance of my work. I said at once, and I meant at once!”
The fact was that the other servant boys were under Kaka Baria’s reign, and Kaka was the type of man who was so strict in his manner with the other mandali that they dared not even talk with these boys.
Baba tore the paper that the telegram was written on into pieces and continued to reproach Bhau. The barrage of rebukes lasted in one form or another until 5:00 P.M., when he dictated another telegram for Krishna: “You are dear to me. Have courage. Everything will be all right.”
Bhau was ordered to send it immediately with another boy. But when Bhau asked Kaka to tell another boy to take the telegram to town, Kaka lashed at him. “The other boy has gone to bring milk,” he snapped. “Do you expect me to take the telegram? Why didn’t you send it with the errand boy this morning?”
Bhau returned to Baba and reported the mishap. This further upset him, and for two hours he ranted and raved at Bhau, who had to listen to Baba’s tirade of choice abuses.
At 7:00 P.M., Baba asked for a sherbet drink, which Bhau handed him in a glass. After taking two sips, he handed the glass to Bhau and motioned to him to drink the rest. Baba’s mood suddenly changed, and he began light conversation and joking.
Baba’s strange behavior that evening perplexed Bhau, and when he returned to his room, he made a note of the date and time. The mystery was cleared up a few weeks later when Baba visited the Saint Mira High School in Poona to give darshan. Krishna Nair attended the function, and Bhau spoke with him. Without telling him why he was inquiring, Bhau learned that on the same day Baba had caused such a storm in Meherazad, Krishna, out of desperation, had gone up a mountain to commit suicide.
It had been two years since Krishna Nair had been sent home from Satara, and he missed Baba terribly. Despondent and depressed, he felt he could not live without staying with Baba. He traveled to Swami Nityanand’s ashram north of Bombay, where he met the great saint. When Krishna stood before him, without asking anything, Nityananda began laughing. Krishna, too, did not say a word.
He quietly left and climbed up the mountain near the saint’s ashram, reaching the top at 4:00 P.M. He had resolved to leap off the mountain cliff into the huge canyon below. No one would find his body hidden in the crevices. But, to be sure, he decided to jump after dark. He lay down and fell asleep. When he awoke, it was dark. He took three steps toward the edge of the cliff and suddenly heard Baba’s clap. He turned and saw Baba standing before him. Baba was in his early thirties. He wore a sadra, and his long hair was down. Krishna told Bhau, “Baba’s eyes were burning like fire! Red in color and flashing!” Krishna fell down unconscious. When he woke up, he abandoned his thoughts of suicide.
Bhau did not tell Krishna what had happened between himself and Baba that day. Thus he discovered that Baba had acted as he did to save Krishna’s life. When Krishna had changed his mind and returned home, Baba’s temperament had suddenly undergone a change. After hours of reproof, Bhau had the good fortune of tasting the sweetened drink touched by Baba’s lips.
Baba truly worships his lovers, and nothing ever remains hidden from him. Later, when Krishna met Baba, Baba asked about what had happened that day. Krishna narrated his meeting with Nityanand.
Baba asked, “Did you take the saint’s darshan?”
Krishna replied, “No, he was laughing.”
Baba replied, “He was not laughing; I was laughing. I, myself, was laughing.
“You wanted to die? Never think of suicide again.”